Music: Hey Ya (Cover)

HEY YA by Outkast (Acapella Cover) @thisisfoure ☝️️✌️️

PURPOSE passion PATIENCE & positivity.


Us Starts With You

The Internet is full of articles and videos about how to find Mr. or Mrs. Right. As a society, we get so lost in the idea of finding the perfect person that we forget about ourselves. 

Surely you have that friend that goes from one love interest to another, without taking the proper time to regroup after a heartbreak. Maybe you have that friend that says they can’t find good people to date, but they only spend time in bars or behind a phone screen. While those are all ways to meet new people, maybe they aren’t the best avenues to find long lasting love.

Instead of spending so much timing worrying about finding the right person, spend more time focusing on being the right person. Become who you want to be in life. Get to the point where you love the life you are living, and love will find you. 

A person who is enjoying life is attractive. A person who has goals and ambitions is attractive. A person who has financial freedom is attractive. Instead of looking for that person, become that person, and love is more likely to come your way.

If you absolutely insist of focusing on love, focus on loving yourself. Find your passions, and be proactive about being involved in things that make you happy. Get so busy discovering who you are that you forget about searching for love. 

Practice the art of positive thinking, be patient with yourself.. 


#TheRecipeForSuccess: Purpose, Passion, Patience, & Positivity – (The Best of

#BadLifeAdvice: Fake It Til You Make It How to Pack for a Cruise 4 Ways to Live a Simpler Less Stressful Life 14 Things To Stop Doing Immediately 15 Lessons That Life Has Taught Me Thousand by @ThisIsFoure Time Management Before You Quit #SelfDate: How To Let Love Find You How To Avoid Success In Your Life

FourJays Banner




Screen shot 2015-03-19 at 2.17.42 PM



Screen shot 2015-03-19 at 2.04.47 PMScreen shot 2015-03-19 at 2.08.23 PM

•If you find this post at all helpful, please show your support by commenting below and sharing this post on your social networks. Follow Thisisfoure on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Soundcloud, & Youtube.



#NoteToSelf: Life Is Good

From this point on, I’m going to start living for me. I’m going to define my own happiness. I refuse to let the negative things in life outshine the positivity of simply being alive. I’ve had some very difficult times in life, and I’m making the decision to learn from those times. When something “bad” happens to me, I’ll learn and laugh. When I’m no longer supposed to smile or laugh, I’ll die. I’m going to be a symbol of positivity for the people who encounter me. I will help people that I want to help, just because I know that helping people makes me happy. I will respect myself. I will do great things. I will inpsire others to aspire….

That’s what I said to myself about 4 years ago.

Life is good!

Positivity is a choice.


Thanks for reading

#BadLifeAdvice: Fake It ‘Til You Make It

The other day, while sitting in a crowded food court at the mall, I overheard a small portion of a conversation between two professionally dressed men. I wasn’t listen very closely, but it seems that one guy was asking the other for advice on surviving in an unfamiliar workplace. The older gentleman offered some quick assistance by way of the phrase “fake it ’til you make it”… I immediately started thinking about what it truly means to fake it ’til you make it. How does that affect you? How does that affect the people around you? What can one do rather than faking it? So many questions came to mind… Let’s dig a little futher into faking success. image Fake = Forged, Counterfeited, & Deceptive.

Just from the definition alone I’d stray away from faking anything. Faking is basically a different way of saying lying. When someone tells you to fake it til you make it, they are basically telling you to lie to yourself and others. If that person is an advocate of faking it, how can you even trust anything they tell you? You can’t! Find a new mentor with better advice!

Who Fakes It?

• People who aren’t willing to dedicate time learning and working hard.

• People who are more concerned with looking the part than learning the role.

• People who are caught up in what other people may think of them.

• People that don’t believe they will ever actually make it to the point they are faking to have already arrived.

Who Doesn’t Fake It?

• Educated People

• Confident People

• Happy People

• Successful People

• Potentially Wealthy People image How Does Faking Affect The Faker?

• Teaches you false confidence

• Makes you a liar

• Drains your bank account

• Takes up all of your time

• Destroys genuine relationships

• Potentially makes you hate who you really are

A fake person cannot be trusted. They can’t even trust themselves. Maintaining a facade is much harder than actually learning how to actually become what you want to be. If you can’t afford it don’t buy it. If you don’t know the answer, ask for help. If you don’t like something, speak up. If nothing changes, leave. Faking is never the answer… No matter if you’re faking happiness, success, knowledge, love, etc.. NONE OF THAT IS ANY GOOD FAKED! There’s no need to go around faking things. You can’t help anyone by being a fake version of yourself. All you’re really doing is creating more room for self hatred down the road.

Alternatives To Faking It

• Learn It!

• Understand it!

• Research it.

• Practice it!

• Save for it.

• Work for it.

• Just don’t fake it… image Knowledge is key. Learn about where you want to be. Understand what it takes to get there, and map out clear steps. Be patient and positive with yourself… Things take time. Focus being a high quality version of whatever it is you want to be, don’t settle for being a counterfeit photocopied version with a forged signature.

*Quick Thought: The fastest way to ruin your chances of becoming something is by acting like you’re already it before you’ve earned your turn. ….think about that!

Instead of faking it til you make it, slow down and take the time and learn how to get where you want to be in life. Stray away from the fakers, because you’ll never be able to know when they are faking you. People who fake it never really know if they made it or not, because they faked it so long that they can’t tell the difference. image In all honesty, If you actually want to make it, You Cant Afford To Fake It!

● If you find this post at all helpful, please show your support by commenting below and sharing this post on your social networks. Follow Thisisfoure on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Soundcloud, & Youtube.



How To Avoid Success In Your Life


How To Avoid Success In Life

● Complain about EVERYTHING!
● Over exaggerate the negative things
● Overlook the small positive things
● Be closed minded
● Don’t address your issues
● Oppose all change
● Envy “successful” people
● Chase money
● Spend more money than you make
● Hang out with broke people
● Stay at a job you hate
● Hang out with miserable people
● Be afraid of the unknown
● Doubt yourself at all costs
● Avoid plans and structure
● Compare your life to others


Are you guilty of any of these horrible habits? Many people don’t notice how harmful these negative behaviors are to their success. By simply addressing and adjusting these habits, you could start to have more successful days in your life. Positivity is a powerful tool. Give it a try! Think positive thoughts. Invest positive actions into the world and your life.

*If you find this post at all helpful, please show your support by commenting below and sharing this post on your social networks. Follow Thisisfoure on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Soundcloud, & Youtube.


#Selfdate: How To Let Love Find You

JWPMISC-6 copyAre you tired of being single? Have you tried everything you are comfortable trying in order to find love? If so, this one is for you! There are millions of single men and women searching for someone to love them, but the truth is they focus so much on finding love that they lose themselves. Today, I challenge you to change courses and focus on loving yourself… #SelfDate

1. Know Yourself – Put your endless search for a partner on pause and learn  about you. The goal is to find out what you like, what you don’t like, and what you bring to the table. This involves being brutally honest with yourself. If you feel that you are lacking in people skills, go out and be around people. Knowing yourself also involves many hours of alone time. It’s okay to be by yourself, in fact after a while you will treasure your alone time more than any other. Uncover your passion. Spend time doing the things you are most passionate about. There are few things more attractive than passion and ambition, but finding your passion may take time, so be patient with your journey.


2. Be Adventurous – If you’re looking for love, you can’t find it sitting in the house, the same concept applies to #SelfDate. You can’t find out what you love about yourself, if your only activity is Netflix marathons. You have to get out there and put yourself to the test. It’s acceptable to go out with friends and try new things, but the true test is your ability to go and try new things by yourself. It’s a freeing experience, one you do not want to cheat yourself out of. When you see things you want to do, try your best to make a note, and make it happen!

3. Understand Happiness – The most difficult part of understanding happiness is coming to terms with the fact that your happiness is your own responsible. To make things a bit clearer, NO ONE ELSE CAN MAKE YOU HAPPY, only you can prevent forest fires… You are the only being that possesses the power to control your happiness. If you’re waiting for someone else to make you happy, be prepared to wait until the end of time. It’s one thing to allow someone to contribute to your happiness, it’s another to give someone the ability to control your happiness. Go out, explore the world, you’ll find happiness like you could never imagine.


4. Don’t Post Everything – Whether you’re out exploring the world or sitting on your couch, it’s best not to post every single thing that comes to mind. Some photos, thoughts, ideas, adventures, and memories are just for you. Posts complaining about being single are counterproductive. Instead, go do something fun and new, take 10 photos while there, post 1 to 3 photos from your exploration. That will make you feel and look much better than complaining about single life. Posting too much kills the mystery. Who needs to hang out with you if they already know your every move. While we’re talking about posting… Don’t allow yourself to spend endless amounts of time on social media, give yourself a limit. The goal is to be social, not to be on social media.

#SelfDate: How To Let Love Find You

There are so many ways to participate in #SelfDate, even if you cook yourself dinner and watch Law & Order SVU… #SelfDate is about knowing, loving, and understanding yourself, because you can’t teach someone else how to love you, if you don’t love you first. #SelfDate  allows you to be a better potential date for someone else, because it helps you build confidence in yourself. “Confident, Adventurous, Happy, & Mysterious”… wouldn’t you want to date someone who fit that description??


Where Do People Find Love These Days?

Just for fun, I asked people on Facebook how they found the love of there life, here are some of the responses:

1. Work
2. Plenty of Fish
3. Church
4. School
5. The Gym
6. Mutual Friends
7. Randomly, it just happened
8. High School Sweethearts
9. The Park
10. Other Online Dating
(This list is in no specific order.)

My best advice: Live a fun & active life, and it is inevitable that someone who is living a similar life will come along, then the next thing you know… Your dates don’t  have #Self in front of them anymore! Until then… Go explore! Go find new things! Go be happy with yourself! Don’t overpost! Be positive! Be patient! Remember, “Confident, Adventurous, Happy, & Mysterious”… #SelfDate



Here is a recap of a 4-Day #SelfDate.. A solo cruise to Mexico, ENJOY!

Here is the song from the video: “Making Sense” by @Thisisfoure

If you find this post at all helpful, please show your support by commenting below and sharing this on your social networks. Follow Thisisfoure on Facebook, InstagramTwitterSoundcloud, & Youtube.


Before You Quit: 11 Tips To Help You Survive At Work

Do you love your job? Well, congratulations! No matter what your answer is to that question, there are a few things you can do to make going to work a little more enjoyable than it was yesterday. There are many factors that can make a job enjoyable, but the most important factor is the person doing the job, YOU. No matter what type of job you have, these tips can make work less of a hassle and more of an opportunity…


11 Tips To Help You Survive @ Work:

11. Know your job & exceed expectations

10. Set out to learn something new everyday

9. Avoid negative people & conversations

8. Get aquainted with your bosses, even the crazy and/or annoying ones

7. Go above and beyond for the customers

6. Realize that some people can’t find a job


5. Keep home at home & leave work at work

4. Find a good work/life balance

3. Don’t take things personally

2. Find a mentor at work to help you grow

1. If you’re still complaining, just quit


If you find this post at all helpful, please show your support by commenting below and sharing this on your social networks. Follow Thisisfoure on Facebook, InstagramTwitterSoundcloud, & Youtube.


Time Management: How To Stop Wasting Your Precious Hours

A few years ago, I found myself missing out on very important events, because I was “so busy”. At the same time, I came to realize that I was barely getting anything productive accomplished. I was always tired, I felt overworked, and I had no idea what I was doing wrong. I was working full-time (40 hrs a week) and going to school full-time (21 hours a week). I was staying up very late… Whether it was for homework or partying, I wasn’t going to sleep until early the next morning. Finally, one day out of pure boredom, I did the math to see how many hours a day I was wasting. Once I saw the results, I got my act together, and it changed my life.


B A S I C  T I M E  M A N A G E M E N T 

Lets break the hours in a week down to basic numbers:

There are 24 hours in a day. 7 days in a week. 24 x 7 = 168.

So, there are 168 hours in a week

I know, it’s odd to think about it that way. 168 hours doesn’t seem very long, and sometimes weeks can feel like they last forever, depending on what you have on your agenda. Nevertheless, There are 168 hours in a week, nothing more or less.


S L E E P  &  W O R K

Sleep and work are the two categories that consume most of your time, even though most people don’t get enough sleep.

The National Heart, Lung and Blood Institute recommends seven to eight hours of sleep for healthy adults, including the elderly. Most current guidelines say school-age children should get at least 10 hours of sleep a night, and teenagers, nine to 10 hours. It is also recommended to avoid alcohol, caffeine, and eating large meals late at night.

For most people who are employed full-time, work can last anywhere from 40 to 60+ hours per week. Part-time employment can have such a wide range that it wouldn’t be helpful to explore that option here.

With all that being said: Sleep should be 8 hours a day, 56 hours a week. Work can have a wide range, but we will focus on 10 hours a day, 50 hours a week.

T H E  B R E A K D O W N

There are 168 hours in a week. 56 of those hours are spent sleeping and 50 of those are spent working. 168 – 56(sleep) = 112 hours | 112 – 50(work) = 62 hours.

Screen shot 2015-02-01 at 5.11.31 PM

There you have it! The number of free time hours you have every week… 62 hours. Before you say it, I know you’re thinking..”that only happens in a perfect world”. You’re right! And, this is far from a perfect world. But, there is no denying that you have about 6 hours on your work days to things that are not sleeping or working, and 16 hours on your off days to utilize. Whether you are volunteering, attending classes, shopping, writing a book, making music, starting your own business, exploring the world, taking over the world, playing sports, fighting grizzly bears, juggling fire balls, doing the moonwalk, or spending time with loved ones…YOU HAVE JUST ABOUT 62 HOURS IN YOUR WEEK TO DO SO. 

T I P S  F O R  S U C C E S S  T I M E  M A N A G E M E N T

  • Make a to-do list everyday (most important tasks at the top)
  • Use your travel time wisely (research while taking the bus or train)
  • Don’t be afraid to say no (you don’t have to do everything this week)
  • Find you productive time (are you a morning or night person)
  • Disconnect from the world during your productive time (you’ll be okay)
  • Budget your time (create a weekly schedule to follow)
  • Don’t get sidetracked (stay focused on your goals)
  • Get enough sleep (Z’s, catch them!)


If you find this post at all helpful, please show your support by commenting below and sharing this     on your social networks. Follow Thisisfoure on Facebook, Instagram,Twitter,Soundcloud, & Youtube.


Music Video: Thousand by @ThisisFoure

Thousand is a song about being there for the people who matter most to you, no matter what. In it’s intended context, the song serves two point of views.

T H O U S A N D  by  @thisisfoure

The first viewpoint is that of a person who has passed away. He is saying to his family, even though you can’t see me face to face, I will always be there for you. Even though you can’t hang out with me, you have all these memories that we created together. I wrote the song after the passing of a close friend (Jayson Richardson), and the passing of a another friend’s close friend. It was my way of coping with the situation, when normal talking words wouldn’t come out right.

The second viewpoint of the song is also very personal to me. Recently I packed my life into a car, and moved (to New Jersey) 1,000 miles away from home (Nashville, Tennessee), hence the title “Thousand”. I wanted a way to express to the friends and family in Tennessee that I was still there if they needed me. I didn’t want anyone to feel abandoned by me. So this was my way of saying, “hey, I’m still here whenever you need to talk”.

In the video you’ll notice that you don’t see any faces other than my own. You see people, but you can’t see their faces. I think you just figured out why… If not, it represents the fact that I can’t see them face to face. The people in the video represent memories of the people in my life.

Honestly, I had no intentions of making this video. It snowed, I got off work early, so I figured, lets see what I can come up with. I hope you enjoy the song and the video. Please share the video with the people you love, let them know you will be there no matter what.

100 Free Downloads of “Thousand” on Soundcloud.

Click here for your free download of “Thousand” by @thisisfoure

If you find this post at all helpful, please show your support by commenting at the bottom of this post, following the blog, and sharing it on your social networks. Follow Thisisfoure on Facebook, InstagramTwitterSoundcloud, & Youtube.

<<dedicated to all the people I’ve ever lost, and all the people who I love>>