How To Avoid Success In Your Life


How To Avoid Success In Life

● Complain about EVERYTHING!
● Over exaggerate the negative things
● Overlook the small positive things
● Be closed minded
● Don’t address your issues
● Oppose all change
● Envy “successful” people
● Chase money
● Spend more money than you make
● Hang out with broke people
● Stay at a job you hate
● Hang out with miserable people
● Be afraid of the unknown
● Doubt yourself at all costs
● Avoid plans and structure
● Compare your life to others


Are you guilty of any of these horrible habits? Many people don’t notice how harmful these negative behaviors are to their success. By simply addressing and adjusting these habits, you could start to have more successful days in your life. Positivity is a powerful tool. Give it a try! Think positive thoughts. Invest positive actions into the world and your life.

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#Selfdate: How To Let Love Find You

JWPMISC-6 copyAre you tired of being single? Have you tried everything you are comfortable trying in order to find love? If so, this one is for you! There are millions of single men and women searching for someone to love them, but the truth is they focus so much on finding love that they lose themselves. Today, I challenge you to change courses and focus on loving yourself… #SelfDate

1. Know Yourself – Put your endless search for a partner on pause and learn  about you. The goal is to find out what you like, what you don’t like, and what you bring to the table. This involves being brutally honest with yourself. If you feel that you are lacking in people skills, go out and be around people. Knowing yourself also involves many hours of alone time. It’s okay to be by yourself, in fact after a while you will treasure your alone time more than any other. Uncover your passion. Spend time doing the things you are most passionate about. There are few things more attractive than passion and ambition, but finding your passion may take time, so be patient with your journey.


2. Be Adventurous – If you’re looking for love, you can’t find it sitting in the house, the same concept applies to #SelfDate. You can’t find out what you love about yourself, if your only activity is Netflix marathons. You have to get out there and put yourself to the test. It’s acceptable to go out with friends and try new things, but the true test is your ability to go and try new things by yourself. It’s a freeing experience, one you do not want to cheat yourself out of. When you see things you want to do, try your best to make a note, and make it happen!

3. Understand Happiness – The most difficult part of understanding happiness is coming to terms with the fact that your happiness is your own responsible. To make things a bit clearer, NO ONE ELSE CAN MAKE YOU HAPPY, only you can prevent forest fires… You are the only being that possesses the power to control your happiness. If you’re waiting for someone else to make you happy, be prepared to wait until the end of time. It’s one thing to allow someone to contribute to your happiness, it’s another to give someone the ability to control your happiness. Go out, explore the world, you’ll find happiness like you could never imagine.


4. Don’t Post Everything – Whether you’re out exploring the world or sitting on your couch, it’s best not to post every single thing that comes to mind. Some photos, thoughts, ideas, adventures, and memories are just for you. Posts complaining about being single are counterproductive. Instead, go do something fun and new, take 10 photos while there, post 1 to 3 photos from your exploration. That will make you feel and look much better than complaining about single life. Posting too much kills the mystery. Who needs to hang out with you if they already know your every move. While we’re talking about posting… Don’t allow yourself to spend endless amounts of time on social media, give yourself a limit. The goal is to be social, not to be on social media.

#SelfDate: How To Let Love Find You

There are so many ways to participate in #SelfDate, even if you cook yourself dinner and watch Law & Order SVU… #SelfDate is about knowing, loving, and understanding yourself, because you can’t teach someone else how to love you, if you don’t love you first. #SelfDate  allows you to be a better potential date for someone else, because it helps you build confidence in yourself. “Confident, Adventurous, Happy, & Mysterious”… wouldn’t you want to date someone who fit that description??


Where Do People Find Love These Days?

Just for fun, I asked people on Facebook how they found the love of there life, here are some of the responses:

1. Work
2. Plenty of Fish
3. Church
4. School
5. The Gym
6. Mutual Friends
7. Randomly, it just happened
8. High School Sweethearts
9. The Park
10. Other Online Dating
(This list is in no specific order.)

My best advice: Live a fun & active life, and it is inevitable that someone who is living a similar life will come along, then the next thing you know… Your dates don’t  have #Self in front of them anymore! Until then… Go explore! Go find new things! Go be happy with yourself! Don’t overpost! Be positive! Be patient! Remember, “Confident, Adventurous, Happy, & Mysterious”… #SelfDate



Here is a recap of a 4-Day #SelfDate.. A solo cruise to Mexico, ENJOY!

Here is the song from the video: “Making Sense” by @Thisisfoure

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Before You Quit: 11 Tips To Help You Survive At Work

Do you love your job? Well, congratulations! No matter what your answer is to that question, there are a few things you can do to make going to work a little more enjoyable than it was yesterday. There are many factors that can make a job enjoyable, but the most important factor is the person doing the job, YOU. No matter what type of job you have, these tips can make work less of a hassle and more of an opportunity…


11 Tips To Help You Survive @ Work:

11. Know your job & exceed expectations

10. Set out to learn something new everyday

9. Avoid negative people & conversations

8. Get aquainted with your bosses, even the crazy and/or annoying ones

7. Go above and beyond for the customers

6. Realize that some people can’t find a job


5. Keep home at home & leave work at work

4. Find a good work/life balance

3. Don’t take things personally

2. Find a mentor at work to help you grow

1. If you’re still complaining, just quit


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Time Management: How To Stop Wasting Your Precious Hours

A few years ago, I found myself missing out on very important events, because I was “so busy”. At the same time, I came to realize that I was barely getting anything productive accomplished. I was always tired, I felt overworked, and I had no idea what I was doing wrong. I was working full-time (40 hrs a week) and going to school full-time (21 hours a week). I was staying up very late… Whether it was for homework or partying, I wasn’t going to sleep until early the next morning. Finally, one day out of pure boredom, I did the math to see how many hours a day I was wasting. Once I saw the results, I got my act together, and it changed my life.


B A S I C  T I M E  M A N A G E M E N T 

Lets break the hours in a week down to basic numbers:

There are 24 hours in a day. 7 days in a week. 24 x 7 = 168.

So, there are 168 hours in a week

I know, it’s odd to think about it that way. 168 hours doesn’t seem very long, and sometimes weeks can feel like they last forever, depending on what you have on your agenda. Nevertheless, There are 168 hours in a week, nothing more or less.


S L E E P  &  W O R K

Sleep and work are the two categories that consume most of your time, even though most people don’t get enough sleep.

The National Heart, Lung and Blood Institute recommends seven to eight hours of sleep for healthy adults, including the elderly. Most current guidelines say school-age children should get at least 10 hours of sleep a night, and teenagers, nine to 10 hours. It is also recommended to avoid alcohol, caffeine, and eating large meals late at night.

For most people who are employed full-time, work can last anywhere from 40 to 60+ hours per week. Part-time employment can have such a wide range that it wouldn’t be helpful to explore that option here.

With all that being said: Sleep should be 8 hours a day, 56 hours a week. Work can have a wide range, but we will focus on 10 hours a day, 50 hours a week.

T H E  B R E A K D O W N

There are 168 hours in a week. 56 of those hours are spent sleeping and 50 of those are spent working. 168 – 56(sleep) = 112 hours | 112 – 50(work) = 62 hours.

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There you have it! The number of free time hours you have every week… 62 hours. Before you say it, I know you’re thinking..”that only happens in a perfect world”. You’re right! And, this is far from a perfect world. But, there is no denying that you have about 6 hours on your work days to things that are not sleeping or working, and 16 hours on your off days to utilize. Whether you are volunteering, attending classes, shopping, writing a book, making music, starting your own business, exploring the world, taking over the world, playing sports, fighting grizzly bears, juggling fire balls, doing the moonwalk, or spending time with loved ones…YOU HAVE JUST ABOUT 62 HOURS IN YOUR WEEK TO DO SO. 

T I P S  F O R  S U C C E S S  T I M E  M A N A G E M E N T

  • Make a to-do list everyday (most important tasks at the top)
  • Use your travel time wisely (research while taking the bus or train)
  • Don’t be afraid to say no (you don’t have to do everything this week)
  • Find you productive time (are you a morning or night person)
  • Disconnect from the world during your productive time (you’ll be okay)
  • Budget your time (create a weekly schedule to follow)
  • Don’t get sidetracked (stay focused on your goals)
  • Get enough sleep (Z’s, catch them!)


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