15 Lessons That Life Has Taught Me

Looking back on my life, it hasn’t been too hard or too easy. I’ve had very good times and very bad times, but I’ve learned many lessons along the way. Some lessons I didn’t understand until years later, others I grasped immediately. Being that I’m still a young man, I don’t claim to know it all, but I do know that life is all about learning. Even when you’re not in the mood to learn, life will continue to teach…



1. Life is shortCherish your loved ones, they don’t last forever.

2. Patience is keyGreat things take time.. chill out. work hard. it’ll happen.

3. Happiness is importantWe spend our lives looking for something we already have.

4. Success is subjectiveYour success in not the same as my success.

5. Money doesn’t equal happiness, but it helpsMoney is a tool.


6. Relationships are EVERYTHINGBuild meaningful relationships, they matter.

7. Work hard, but make time for funDon’t allow yourself to work your life away.

8. It’s okay to say NoIt is perfectly ok to say “NO”. 

9. A positive mindset is necessaryPositivity changes outcomes.

10. Helping others is therapeuticHelping others helps you.IMG_20140118_144256

11. Material things can be replaced – Get rid of the excess.

12. Laughter is healthy Laugh as often as possible.

13. Be adventurous – Go somewhere new, do something crazy.

14. Find & stand for your passionBe passionate about something.

15. Share your experiencesBecause you could help someone.

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14 Things To Stop Doing Immediately

Hello there,

Maybe I know you, maybe I don’t, but the chances are high that you or someone you know could benefit from the list below. We as humans find every way possible to harm ourselves and the people around us. We wonder why life is so hard, but most of the time we are the source of our own difficulties. Whether we developed these horrible habits as defense mechanisms, or we learned them from absorbing the behaviors of others, these habits must be broken in order to have a more peaceful and enjoyable life.

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14 Things to stop doing immediately:

1. Wasting Time & Money – We often work our lives away in order to have enough money to survive. Then we take the money that we worked so hard for and spend it on things that give us temporary joy. If you’re going to spend your life working, don’t waste your money, instead be smart with your cash, make it work for you. Right now you are probably attempting to justify your irrational spending habits. Stop, just stop!

We also don’t value our own time, so we tend to spend it in ways that are not beneficial to our growth as individuals. Hesitating is one way we waste time. Sitting around waiting for something to happen… that’s worked so far, right? Exactly, that never works. Get up, get out, and be productive. Work towards goals, don’t just fly by the seat of your expensive designer pants. Also, don’t allow others to misuse your time. Time is very valuable, at least you can make more money, you can’t get back lost time.

2. Apologizing when you did nothing wrong – Oh, you’re sorry? Well, what exactly are you sorry about? If you have no specific reason to be apologizing, then you have no reason apologizing. Apologizing without reason makes absolutely no sense. If you did something wrong, by all means admit it and apologize. If you didn’t do anything wrong, why on Earth would you be sorry? That’s like pleading guilty to a crime that you didn’t commit.

3. Saying yes when no is the right answer – Do you feel the need to say always say yes? Always saying yes doesn’t make you a good person, it makes you a person with high levels of stress. Life is about choices. You have the right to say no when you disagree or have other obligations. People will not understand why you are saying no, but that is not your problem. Saying no is not rude, it’s your right. No is one of the most powerful words in the English language. Utilizing no will give you back the control that you didn’t even know you had given away.


4. Dating toxic people – Short and simple, stop dating people who you know are bad for you. You can’t change anyone, unless that person is ready to change. People don’t change for other people, people only change for themselves. Whether romantically or platonically, don’t waste your life with someone who doesn’t motivate and inspire you to reach higher.

5. Overly dramatizing life events – Is every bad thing that happens in your life “the worst thing that has ever happened to you”? If so, sit down with a glass of water and take this chill pill. Bad things happen in life, it’s inevitable, but if you think everything is the worst, life will continue to show you just how much worse things can get. If you stop and take things one day at a time, you can allow yourself to look back and see just how beautiful life is as a whole. Surely, if you look back you realize the real “worst thing ever”, taught you more, made you grow, and actually changed your life. Don’t stress out over every little thing that goes wrong, that only makes more seem wrong, when some things are actually alright.

6. Ignoring red flags – Ever made it to the end of a situation only to realize that the source of the problem was around from the very beginning? Yeah, it happens to all of us. Don’t run around being paranoid about every little thing you see. Do address the red flags when you notice them. If a pipe has a visible leak, you don’t wait until your house if flooded, you address it ASAP, even if it means a little extra work. Again, don’t jump to conclusions… address the source and ask questions.


7. Minding the business of others – There’s a difference in helping others and just being nosey. Keep your nose in your business where it belongs. You have enough going on in your life. Don’t allow someone else’s misfortunes to become your entertainment, because that’s just plain evil. Genuinely helping others is certainly acceptable, but if you find yourself judging or enjoying their pain, step away.

8. Stressing about life – Give up the stress and the worry, write out an action plan. Chances are that plan with change, that’s life. Stressing will never solve any of your problems, ever, no matter how good you are at stressing out. Replace your stress with action. Every problem has a solution. Attack the source of your problems… Beware the source of your problems could very possibly be you. If so, don’t stress out about it, acknowledge the fact and change!

9. Being impatient & negative – Find the positive things in your life and focus on making them happen more often. In life, you have to wait, but waiting doesn’t mean sitting around doing nothing. Waiting means, being patient while you work hard towards your goal. Timing is very important, so is positivity. Have positive thoughts about your goals. Set attainable goals, and be patient with yourself while working toward them.

10. Lying to yourself and others – Lies make life so much harder. When you tell the truth, that’s it. When you tell a lie, you have to keep track of the lie, until eventually you begin to believe that lie yourself. And, if lying to others isn’t bad enough, lying to yourself is the worst thing you could do. Be honest with yourself and the people you encounter.

11. Beating yourself up over past mistakes – So what! You’ve made a few major mistakes in life… WHO HASN’T? Take those mistakes and learn from them. Help others to not make the same mistakes that you made. Don’t beat yourself down for the things you did in the past, learn from those experiences and move on. Don’t dwell on the past, look toward the future and create a better existence for yourself.


12. Limiting yourself & others – Don’t allow your fear to limit your success. Even more, don’t allow your fear to stop someone else from succeeding. You can do anything that you allow yourself to do. Look at all the times you succeeded in life, I bet you were nervous, BUT YOU DID IT! Set out to overcome every fear you have. Not only will it help you realize that fear is irrelevant, but you may also inspire someone else to overcome a fear of their own.

13. Ignoring your purpose & passion – If you feel in your heart that you are meant to do something, why are you not pursuing that thing. There are so many ways to fulfill you purpose. If you feel you were meant to teach, you don’t necessarily have to be a school teacher. In this day and age, there are so many ways to put your passions to work. Use your brain, get creative, share your findings. Who knows… You could very well change the world.

14. Making excuses – If you’re wrong, admit it. If things don’t work out, it’s okay. Don’t worry about who’s to blame, just work towards the solution. Excuses are about as useful as fear.

The behaviors listed above can really destroy the simplicity in your life. Just imagine how much more enjoyable life could be if you shake these useless habits and start focusing on what truly matters. Maybe you have your life together and you have a friend who could benefit from this advice, if so, share this post… you may help them take the first step towards a happier life. 

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4 Ways to Live a Simpler, Less Stressful Life.

Is your life super stressful? Do you find yourself overwhelmed with the level of stress in your day to day routine? Most Americans admit to being highly stressed. Stress can cause many physical ailments, such as headache, back pain, shoulder pain, dizziness, and more. The majority of stress is created in the workplace, but can also originate from other areas of life. There are many in depth suggestions on how to eliminate stress. Today we will focus on a few simple ways to live a simpler less stressful life. Get Rid Of Stress!

4. Seek Adventure, Not Drama

  • Eliminate a few social networksKeeping up with unimportant events is stressful.
  • Plan two or three trips to take this yearEven if it’s a short road trip, get away!
  • Practice yoga or some other form exerciseTake yourself on a fitness journey.
  • Find yourselfEasier said than done, but it is possible.

3. Get your finances in order

  • Stop buying thing that you don’t needShoes, purses, games, gifts, clothing, etc..
  • Declutter. Sell what you don’t useGet rid of the clutter in your life.
  • Make a budget, & start savingTake control of your finances. NOW!
  • Start attacking debt smallest to largestCredit cards, school loans, car notes, etc..

2. Learn to go with the flow

  • Expect less from othersWe are adults. You are responsible for your own life.
  • Don’t panic when plans changeIf plans change, make new plans.
  • Realize every moment is a learning experience – Experiences make you stronger!
  • Leave work at work Don’t take the stress from work home. Learn to separate.

1. Surround yourself with success & love

  • Find a mentor, someone “successful” to youSchedule time with this person.
  • Stay in touch with family & friends These connections can bring much joy.
  • Speak to strangers, make new friendsNew friends are a new adventure.
  • Learn to love yourself – Know your worth.

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If You Don’t. . .

If you’re always the best in the room, get new friends. If you always have a problem, maybe you’re the issue. If you don’t define success and happiness for yourself, you will never find them. If you dont know your worth, you will never get what you deserve. If you dont take chances, you wont reach your full potential. If any of this struck a nerve, you’re human. Last, but not least… if you wont, someone else will.

– J.W. Foure

How to Pack for a Cruise: What Should I Bring?


Going on a cruise? Congratulations! Cruising is very relaxing, and at the same time tons of fun. It’s often difficult to know what you need to pack if you’ve never taken a cruise before, so here is a list of helpful items. Check with your cruise line for specific details and restrictions.



Take these documents with you, but also make physical copies in case of emergency:

•Passport – photo page
•Medical health insurance card
•Credit card

Try to copy these documents onto one page using a scanner. Guard these copies, keep them on you while traveling, and in a room safe if available.



Print these documents. Some places accept mobile documents, but print to be safe:

•Flight tickets
•Cruise documents – any required documentation (check with you cruise line)
•Parking info & ticket – if you use offsite parking or airport parking.
•Cruise Transfer Number – if you are being picked from the airport by your cruise line.

Do not pack these items in your checked baggage, keep them with you, or in a carry-on.



Buy this stuff:

•Sunblock – because you need it.
•Motioneze – to fight motion sickness.
•Air freshener – non electric. Your room may smell like seafood. No candles allowed.
•Headache medicine
•$50 in ones per person
•Snacks – fruit snacks or things that won’t melt. Candy is expensive onboard.
•Night Light – your room may be completely dark at night, depending of your cruise line.
•Water – You’re allowed to bring water, the tap water may not be drinkable. Bottled water will cost you, so pack your own.
•Mio – water flavoring.
•Lanyard – to store you key card.
•Ear plugs – ships are loud and old, you may need these for a good nights sleep, especially if your room is above a showroom or a casino.


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•5 shirts
•Dress clothes – for meet the captain dinner.
•Dress shoes – because naked shoes are forbidden.
•Tennis shoes
•Flip flops
•Phone charger
•Sticky notes
•Antibacterial Wipes
•Paper towel roll – to keep the daily activity logs as souvenirs.


Here is a Youtube video of the highlights from my last cruise:

Have fun, be social, and live!!! Cruises are much more fun when you mingle with people you don’t know! Reminder: Check with your cruise line for specific details and restrictions.

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